couples therapy
It’s not too late to understand each other differently.
I understand that couples aren’t just fighting about dishes, schedules, or parenting. What’s really at stake is feeling unseen, unheard, or alone—even when you’re together.
Maybe trust has been shaken, communication feels impossible, or you’ve both started to wonder if the relationship can ever feel close again.
Therapy is a space to slow down, look beneath the surface, and begin seeing each other without judgements. It’s where healing begins—not by choosing sides, but by understanding each other differently.
You might be thinking…
“We keep fighting about the same things over and over—why can’t we just get along?”
“I feel like my partner never really listens to me.”
“I feel like we’re living separate lives instead of being partners.”
Relationships can lose their spark or get stuck in painful cycles of conflict and disconnection. Many couples come to therapy feeling “I feel like we’re living separate lives instead of being partners.” torn between wanting things to change and fearing they never will.
The good news: there’s always a way forward once both partners begin to understand what’s really driving the pattern.
My Approach
My work with couples begins with removing judgment and understanding the deeper patterns that shape how each partner connects, reacts, and protects themselves. Often, these patterns trace back to different attachment styles—the ways we learned to seek closeness, express needs, or manage conflict. One partner might withdraw when things feel tense, while the other reaches out for reassurance. Both are trying to feel safe, but their strategies collide.
My role is to help you translate those moments—to make sense of what’s really being said beneath the frustration or silence. When each partner begins to see not just what the other does but why, understanding and compassion start to replace defensiveness and blame.
We’ll work on shifting the focus from “who’s right” to “what’s happening between us,” uncovering the emotions and longings that fuel your interactions. Over time, couples learn to respond to each other with more patience, curiosity, and gratitude—and to rebuild the sense of trust and teamwork that relationships need to thrive.
What to expect
In couples therapy, we start by looking at your communication and how it feels for each of you—paying attention to both the content of your arguments and the meanings beneath them.
As communication begins to feel safer, we explore your differences—how each of you approaches emotions, needs, and connection—and work toward acceptance rather than judgment. This is often where real understanding begins. From there, we turn toward bridging the gaps that have formed over time. Through guided conversations and practical tools, you’ll learn how to reconnect, rebuild trust, and replace resentment with gratitude.
The goal isn’t perfection—it’s creating a relationship where both partners feel seen, valued, and emotionally safe enough to be themselves
client experience
client experience
“Daniel made excellent use of time during our sessions. Every session we left with a new tool to use in our relationship. He was very good at challenging us in a respectful way. He would help us uncover mental barriers we ourselves didn't even know we put up with.”
Ready to begin
I offer virtual couples therapy for clients anywhere in New York State, making it easier to fit sessions into your life and schedule.
For couples seeking a more focused and intentional approach, I offer 10-session packages designed to support consistent work on relational patterns, communication, and meaningful change. While every relationship is different, many couples find that committing to a structured course of sessions allows for deeper insight and more sustained progress.
If you’re ready to understand each other differently and move from frustration to connection, I’d be glad to help.